I read a quote from author Glennon Doyle Melton this week about grief. It resonated with me and continues the theme of active life. It goes along with other quotes we’ve all heard before, “it’s better to have loved and lost…” and so on. What struck me from the quote about love and grief was how grief is a part of the whole process. The only way to avoid grief in love is to never love. If you are going to love anything ever you will experience grief, it goes with it.
If you are like the rest of us, you will love, you will lose, you will grieve and you will recover to love again. In that experience, your love muscles will grow stronger. There are lots of loves; partners, parents, kids, friends, pets, passions, and more. All of the relationships are different and all of them have the capacity to bring some grief into your world.
Once I accept grief it’s like a good cry and it’s the place I get to when I know the next stage is to start moving forward again. Get through enough grief and you will look forward to acceptance and moving forward.
Rewrite
Today’s rewrite is a quote from Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton.
“Grief is love’s souvenir. It’s our proof that we once loved. Grief is the receipt we wave in the air that says to the world: Look! Love was once mine. I love well. Here is my proof that I paid the price.”
Thoughts on Piece
If you get into the ring of life you are going to take a few punches. Train for it and throw a few of your own while you are there.
Thoughts on Practice
One of the benefits of publishing every day is you start looking for ways to make the process of posting more efficient. Substack doesn’t have the ability to save a post template or at least one I could find. This weekend I created a draft template that I can use to improve my post efficiency. I can’t duplicate a post either, what I came up with this weekend is to open the draft post in another browser window and copy sections from the draft post into my active post.
The “hack” won’t save me a ton of time, but it’s a step in the right direction and the beginning of figuring out how to come up with the next hack.
Thoughts For You
Love hard, lose that love, grieve hard and then do it again.
Jukebox Shuffle
Thoughts on Music
Today the Jukebox is landing on a band called Editors. I’ve been a fan of Editors for many years, but this song I will admit is the result of one of the many streaming services I listen to. I’m grateful to the algorithm, this song is a keeper.
Click on the Apple Music image to listen to the song on Apple Music or on the Spotify Image to listen on Spotify.
Be Good,
Johnny